Comments on: Ask Ed & Sugar: You Say She Just A Friend http://afrostoshelltoes.com/word/2009/03/09/ask-ed-sugar-you-say-she-just-a-friend/ Wed, 15 Feb 2012 21:40:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: chris http://afrostoshelltoes.com/word/2009/03/09/ask-ed-sugar-you-say-she-just-a-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-2048 chris Wed, 11 Mar 2009 17:37:24 +0000 http://afrostoshelltoes.com/word/?p=2427#comment-2048 1. Right on, check yourself and your motivations to be sure that there isn't a "beam" in your own eye, so-to-speak, before checking your man. Then, check your man. Listen, as a man I have to be honest, women should be suspicious of their man's relations with other women. Paranoid or accusing: No, never and especially when you don't have proof. Mindful & forthcoming about your concerns: yes and selectively so (please don't ride us about it). 2. As one of America's greatest cougars, does Whitney's blackness make her a panther? 1. Right on, check yourself and your motivations to be sure that there isn’t a “beam” in your own eye, so-to-speak, before checking your man. Then, check your man. Listen, as a man I have to be honest, women should be suspicious of their man’s relations with other women. Paranoid or accusing: No, never and especially when you don’t have proof. Mindful & forthcoming about your concerns: yes and selectively so (please don’t ride us about it).

2. As one of America’s greatest cougars, does Whitney’s blackness make her a panther?

]]> By: Gus Mayweather http://afrostoshelltoes.com/word/2009/03/09/ask-ed-sugar-you-say-she-just-a-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-2030 Gus Mayweather Tue, 10 Mar 2009 17:01:02 +0000 http://afrostoshelltoes.com/word/?p=2427#comment-2030 As usual, you touch on some key issues. It makes me think about a few questionable summer barbecues. Keep doing it guys. -Gus As usual, you touch on some key issues. It makes me think about a few questionable summer barbecues. Keep doing it guys.

-Gus

]]> By: Dana http://afrostoshelltoes.com/word/2009/03/09/ask-ed-sugar-you-say-she-just-a-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-2027 Dana Tue, 10 Mar 2009 15:18:44 +0000 http://afrostoshelltoes.com/word/?p=2427#comment-2027 I think you guys put a lot of stuff out on the table on this one. I appreciate your honesty and willingness to be transparent. Often times men are not as revealing when it comes to relationships. I think if we continue you to have these type of discussions. Maybe we can send a life boat to black love before it flat lines..... I think you guys put a lot of stuff out on the table on this one. I appreciate your honesty and willingness to be transparent. Often times men are not as revealing when it comes to relationships. I think if we continue you to have these type of discussions. Maybe we can send a life boat to black love before it flat lines…..

]]> By: The Sh!t http://afrostoshelltoes.com/word/2009/03/09/ask-ed-sugar-you-say-she-just-a-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-2016 The Sh!t Mon, 09 Mar 2009 18:45:35 +0000 http://afrostoshelltoes.com/word/?p=2427#comment-2016 Nicole's story resonates like ripples in a pond... As a brother who befriends several women... I also understand that spreading yourself thin is another recipe for a brew called insecurity with your significant other... Frustrating as it is for all involved... I must say that at the end of it all we must remember that love is not ownership... To truly love someone we must be able to accept them for who they are... big love or little... When we place our insecurities at the center of a relationship we actually begin sowing seeds of dissent... Communication is key, but that must be coupled with self-confidence... If love is real, then why the stress... Sure your dude may be extra friendly with certain women... but the qualities you love him for others will see as well... But is he truly being himself and the person you fell in love with if you take his best qualities and put in in a ziploc bag? Nicole’s story resonates like ripples in a pond… As a brother who befriends several women… I also understand that spreading yourself thin is another recipe for a brew called insecurity with your significant other… Frustrating as it is for all involved… I must say that at the end of it all we must remember that love is not ownership… To truly love someone we must be able to accept them for who they are… big love or little… When we place our insecurities at the center of a relationship we actually begin sowing seeds of dissent… Communication is key, but that must be coupled with self-confidence… If love is real, then why the stress… Sure your dude may be extra friendly with certain women… but the qualities you love him for others will see as well… But is he truly being himself and the person you fell in love with if you take his best qualities and put in in a ziploc bag?

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